GirlChat #364244
Apology to Donors of Alice Day Charity Campaign
Posted by lindsay on 2006-August-04 17:21:15 EDT, FridayAs you are all now probably aware, Todd Nickerson, who acted as an agent of puellula.com during the Alice Day Charity Campaign, has unilaterally decided to dispense with the donated funds as he sees fit without any input from other donors or consideration of their wishes. His decision, which I opposed both publicly and privately, both saddens me and leaves me to blame in part for trusting him to carry out our actions as we saw fit, rather than taking our money and spending it as he sees fit. For my part in entrusting these funds to an agent who ultimately proved himself untrustworthy, I apologise to all of you.
I originally selected Todd to act in this capacity because he had proven himself comptent and trustworthy in a similar capacity earlier in the year. I had no reason whatsoever to believe that this time, for reasons not entirely clear to me, he would violate our ficuciary trust and misappropriate these funds as he claims to be doing even as I write this letter.
When Todd publicised his intention to dispense with the funds anonymously and without any accountability or transparency, I responded by saying that I opposed his plan. Not wishing to precipitate a round of public recriminations, I subsequently wrote him emails privately that conveyed my opposition in stronger language than I used publicly. I had hoped that by these efforts he could be convinced to consult with others before dispensing with the funds. Todd now claims that he never received these emails. Whilst I never received any bounce messages from his email provider, I cannot with any surety know if his statement is true or false.
After he stated that my mails went unreceived, I made two more urgent posts on GirlChat as well as writing him an email to his new email address. As you have probably seen, his response to me was that his decision is a fait accompli and that nothing I say will change it.
I truly regret that Todd did not see fit to at any point discuss his decision with me. Considering the fact that the charity campaign was my idea and that it was conducted under the auspices of my website, puellula.com, it would have seemed reasonable that he would have included me in his decision-making process.
Whilst I do not fault Todd in any way for his change of heart regarding childlove and childlove advocacy, I find every fault in his decision to take funds donated by others and do with them as he sees fit without any form of accountability or transparency. His actions constitute theft of the property of others and are fully not in keeping with the honour with which he has conducted himself up until now. I do not hate Todd, but I deplore his actions.
Once again, please accept my sincerest apologies for my hand in this unpleasantness. Whilst I am unable to restore the purloined funds to you, I hereby withdraw from any future efforts to raise funds until such time as I am able to make more adequate guarantees that the funds will be used as intended.
Lindsay--
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Responses
- Re: Apology to Donors of Alice Day Charity Campaign - Mr. Crab on 2006-August-07 00:22:50 EDT, Monday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- No need, bro - BB on 2006-August-05 12:51:18 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- A sad end - Jester's Tear on 2006-August-05 07:51:08 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Doubt - Celebrator on 2006-August-05 09:42:37 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- How would one 'donate' anonymously, and... - porcelain on 2006-August-05 03:49:20 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 4)
- Re: How would one 'donate' anonymously, and... - Demosthenes on 2006-August-05 11:28:58 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 3)
- Re: How would one 'donate' anonymously, and... - porcelain on 2006-August-05 13:39:06 EDT, Saturday - (3 / 0 / 2)
- It can be safe. - Infinity on 2006-August-05 13:56:49 EDT, Saturday - (3 / 0 / 1)
- Don't forget . . . - Baldur on 2006-August-05 16:16:13 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- It can be safe. - Infinity on 2006-August-05 13:56:49 EDT, Saturday - (3 / 0 / 1)
- Re: How would one 'donate' anonymously, and... - porcelain on 2006-August-05 13:39:06 EDT, Saturday - (3 / 0 / 2)
- Re: How would one 'donate' anonymously, and... - Demosthenes on 2006-August-05 11:28:58 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 3)
- Questions For Todd - MarcoPolo on 2006-August-04 21:54:34 EDT, Friday - (0 / 0 / 0)
- Apology accepted - Minstrel on 2006-August-04 18:58:08 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Look at it this way . . . - Todd on 2006-August-04 18:56:55 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 58)
- Re: Look at it this way . . . - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-05 03:05:21 EDT, Saturday - (0 / 0 / 0)
- Do you really think it was right, ... - Piz on 2006-August-04 20:19:03 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 6)
- Re: Do you really think it was right, ... - Todd on 2006-August-04 21:58:30 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 5)
- Re: Do you really think it was right, ... - taf-kat on 2006-August-05 04:21:13 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 3)
- What witch hunt? - Hen-Wen on 2006-August-06 00:23:12 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 2)
- Re: What witch hunt? - taf-kat on 2006-August-05 13:56:11 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Yes, there has been... - Hen-Wen on 2006-August-05 20:11:48 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Re: What witch hunt? - taf-kat on 2006-August-05 13:56:11 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- What witch hunt? - Hen-Wen on 2006-August-06 00:23:12 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 2)
- Re: Do you really think it was right, ... - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-05 03:03:39 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Re: Do you really think it was right, ... - taf-kat on 2006-August-05 04:21:13 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 3)
- Re: Do you really think it was right, ... - Todd on 2006-August-04 21:58:30 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 5)
- Perhaps, in the spirit of good faith... - Hen-Wen on 2006-August-04 19:30:15 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Re: Perhaps, in the spirit of good faith... - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-05 03:07:59 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - Enigma on 2006-August-04 19:26:48 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 47)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-05 03:11:37 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 10)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - Humboldt on 2006-August-05 03:30:30 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 9)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-05 03:37:41 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 8)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - Humboldt on 2006-August-05 03:41:32 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 7)
- As long as the laws remain in place... - Dissident on 2006-August-05 08:54:03 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 4)
- One Thing I would Like To Point Out - The Walker on 2006-August-05 17:43:10 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 3)
- I don't think so, Walker... - Dissident on 2006-August-06 13:05:47 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Re: One Thing I would Like To Point Out - Humboldt on 2006-August-05 18:08:09 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Nevertheless... - Dissident on 2006-August-06 13:08:57 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- One Thing I would Like To Point Out - The Walker on 2006-August-05 17:43:10 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 3)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-05 03:49:14 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 1)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - Humboldt on 2006-August-05 03:57:09 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- As long as the laws remain in place... - Dissident on 2006-August-05 08:54:03 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 4)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - Humboldt on 2006-August-05 03:41:32 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 7)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-05 03:37:41 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 8)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - Humboldt on 2006-August-05 03:30:30 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 9)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - gater on 2006-August-04 23:08:49 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Indeed. (nm) - Enigma on 2006-August-05 01:14:42 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - Todd on 2006-August-04 22:19:04 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 33)
- You know.... - BB on 2006-August-05 12:46:07 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 32)
- Well said BB - MarcoPolo on 2006-August-05 08:39:18 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 5)
- Enough of this - Minstrel on 2006-August-06 04:24:43 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Todd's threats... - Demosthenes on 2006-August-05 11:51:48 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 3)
- Hmmm... - BB on 2006-August-05 18:09:06 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Re: Hmmm... - Demosthenes on 2006-August-06 03:26:43 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- I have my suspicions too. (nm) - Enigma on 2006-August-05 17:36:59 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 0)
- Hmmm... - BB on 2006-August-05 18:09:06 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- BB - Todd on 2006-August-05 01:51:00 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 3)
- Re: BB - Kalika on 2006-August-06 14:58:51 EDT, Sunday - (2 / 0 / 0)
- You are having problems. Calm down. - Hen-Wen on 2006-August-06 00:30:10 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- I'd respond, but.... - BB on 2006-August-05 18:00:30 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Hell yeah that's what he said. - Enigma on 2006-August-05 01:12:37 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 21)
- This is unfairly harsh - Minstrel on 2006-August-06 00:43:42 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Thanks for taking the shot at me... - Dissident on 2006-August-05 08:24:09 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 19)
- Sorry... - Enigma on 2006-August-05 17:28:32 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 18)
- Another thing... - Dissident on 2006-August-06 13:32:26 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 9)
- Re: Another thing... - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-06 18:01:42 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 8)
- Re: Another thing... - Dissident on 2006-August-08 04:36:06 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Five arguments? - Mr. Crab on 2006-August-08 11:22:28 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Patently Untrue. - Hen-Wen on 2006-August-06 20:07:58 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Hmmm... - Demosthenes on 2006-August-06 18:09:46 EDT, Sunday - (2 / 0 / 4)
- interesting comparison . . . - Baldur on 2006-August-06 22:17:49 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Re: interesting comparison . . . - Demosthenes on 2006-August-07 04:42:32 EDT, Monday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Now what was that about not taking shots at me?-nt - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-06 18:13:08 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- I was only speaking the truth. -nt- - Demosthenes on 2006-August-06 19:05:26 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- interesting comparison . . . - Baldur on 2006-August-06 22:17:49 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Re: Another thing... - Dissident on 2006-August-08 04:36:06 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Re: Another thing... - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-06 18:01:42 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 8)
- Re: Sorry... - Dissident on 2006-August-06 13:17:00 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- And apparently..... - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-06 04:45:59 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 4)
- Wait, I may have misread your post... - Dissident on 2006-August-06 14:20:00 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- I never had a problem with you before... - Dissident on 2006-August-06 13:19:05 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 2)
- Re: I never had a problem with you before... - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-06 17:56:21 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Do you also post here as Pedo-Ken? - Dissident on 2006-August-08 04:32:54 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Re: I never had a problem with you before... - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-06 17:56:21 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Re: Sorry... - taf-kat on 2006-August-05 18:43:32 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Taffy, we are opponents... - Dissident on 2006-August-06 13:34:06 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Another thing... - Dissident on 2006-August-06 13:32:26 EDT, Sunday - (1 / 0 / 9)
- Sorry... - Enigma on 2006-August-05 17:28:32 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 18)
- Well said BB - MarcoPolo on 2006-August-05 08:39:18 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 5)
- You know.... - BB on 2006-August-05 12:46:07 EDT, Saturday - (1 / 0 / 32)
- Re: Don't try to play the misunderstood hero. - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-05 03:11:37 EDT, Saturday - (2 / 0 / 10)
- Nah... - Infinity on 2006-August-04 17:57:44 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 0)
- Re: Apology to Donors of Alice Day Charity Campaig - FANNINGfan on 2006-August-04 17:46:49 EDT, Friday - (1 / 0 / 0)