Belief Systems

On this board there is a belief system regarding pedophilia which the majority of posters adhere to. I havent been here very long and I have to say that I already have my own belief system which differs from yours on significant issues. When I have posted here I have tried to couch my language in your terms but there are times when I have lapsed into using terms the way I normally think of them and this has perhaps caused a little confusion for which I apologise.

To set the record straight I would like to set out my ideas which I hope you will find interesting. If you think that theyre without merit then fair enough, at least you know where Im coming from. I've no wish to change anyone's mind these are purely my views which I've held for some time.

Pedophile
For me this means anyone who is sexually or romantically or for any other reason attracted to children . By attracted I mean attracted by any reason so it does include child molesters and rapists. But why wouldnt I want to create a sharp division between those who molest and those who dont? Its because I dont think that there is a sharp division, in fact I see myself as a potential child molester. I think of the time many years ago when I almost manipulated my young cousin into doing something (nothing illegal occurred), I think of fantasies I sometimes have and the fact that I have been turned on by non-consensual fiction concerning lgs (legal where I am). So why is it I have never molested and am nearly always sweet and adoring to little girls in real life? Its because of something I call the compassion index which Ill talk about later.
So my definition of pedophile is the same as what most of the population think, which is OK, as I like to think of myself as being part of my society, not as separate from it. Recently however I have been thinking that there should be a new word for non-predatory pedophiles, as public perception does not match reality.

Pedophilic Index (PI)
This is a measure of how attracted someone is to children. If the whole adult population was queued up in order of how attractive they found children, then, if you were 30% of the way down the queue you would have a PI of 30. I think it is reasonable to say that having a PI up to 3 (ie 3% of the population) makes you a fully committed pedophile and up to say 25 where there would be at least an occasional attraction to young girls.

Compassion Index (CI)
What is compassion? Its the ability to feel empathy with another person, the ability to share their joy and sorrow, and to want the best for them. The ability to walk a mile in another mans shoes. So if the whole population were queued up in order of how compassionate they were, starting with those that felt none, then if you were 10% of the way down the queue you would have a CI of 10. Having a CI below 1 would mean that you are more likely to treat another person as an object and to have no feelings for them.

Its interesting to consider different combinations of these indexes
PI CI
3 1 a probable child molester
25 1 a possible child molester
50 1 a possible adult rapist
As for me, having a CI of maybe 20, means that despite having the occasional unhealthy fantasy I stand little chance of being a molester.

Situational Offenders
I can understand why you set these up as the villains of the piece, but to me it seems a bit of a red herring. The majority of SOs are fathers or stepfathers and whereas Im not a proponent of incest Im sure at least some of these are loving (although illegal) relationships. I can empathise with someone who lives or works in close proximity to a child they are attracted to. They might even fight off their desires for years before succumbing to temptation. Its easy to demonise people, a bit harder to understand them. Of course, those with CI of below 1 will be likely to offend anyway.

Well thats it in a nutshell. It takes a bit of time before the full ramifications of thinking like this sink in. I expect its likely to offend some and others think its tosh, but Ive laid it on the line now.