A more subtle approach.

Rather than waste alot of time or make accusations...I'd like to use your own "theory" to point something out to you.

You claim that a PI of 3 makes you a pedophile, and that represents 3% of the population...you also take about your "compassion index" (which is something that can't be measured anyway)...and if the index is 1, then that person sees others as objects only.

I am hoping that you are clever enough to see that the amount of 3 PI people who ALSO have this "CI" of 1 is going to be REALLY small. REALLY small...as in, there is no way in the world that they can account for ANY meaningful amount of the vast sexual abuse of kids that goes on.

What's missing? Several things: First off, the various federal agencies and prisons have conducted their own research on WHO abuses children and they found that anywhere from 85 - 92% of those people were not sexually attracted to kids in any way. Are all those institutions wrong? Were they all fooled? Unlikely...if you're a male, you can't fool the Penile Plysmegraph (SP!). Please do a little research on that end...JD420 has countless links to the appropriate data.

Second, Rape is a CHOICE. You seem to take the human component out of this entire thing. People make a choice to do something or not to do it. You almost manipulated your cousin into sexual activity, but you did NOT...why didn't you? You made a choice, and it has little to do with your "compassion index"...I had a choice to let MY little cousin "trick" me into playing sex games with her...so why didn't I? Again, I made a choice.

Rape/sexual abuse is ALMOST never about an attraction...it is about power and control. Many adults who have NO sexual interest in children at all, find those children very easy to control and get off on the power they have over them...and what they can force those kids to do.

In addition, if you took someone with a very powerful sexual attraction to a woman AND who also views them as nothing more than objects, then you have a "probable" rapist? Hmmmm....MOST men on this planet DO view the women around them as objects, and are VERY attracted to alot of those women...so then does that make MOST men "probable rapists"? Um.....no. Now, why not?

Again...CHOICE. You may be VERY attracted to someone AND you may even view that person as nothing more than an object...but that does not mean that you are going to cross a line in your mind to force yourself on that person...and it has little to do with "compassion". We are not mindless drones who are driven only by our compulsions...we do not simply ACT and REACT to things in our environment...we chose to do things, or not to do things. There is ALOT more to someone choosing to rape another human being than compassion.

I would suggest to you that a person who sees kids as NOTHING but objects AND is sexually attracted to them might be more likely to sexually abuse them than a pedophile who DOESN'T see them as objects...but that is about the ONLY "real" conclusion you can draw from your index stuff.

To suggest that your numbers imply most of the molesters are peds only shows you are not extrapolating the correct conclusions from your numbers.

I would also suggest that you are simply projecting your own confusion onto the rest of us. I am not a potential molester...I never have been and never will be. My feelings for lgs...and YOURS are perfectly natural and it doesn't make you ANY more or less likely to abuse a child.

You need time to learn and understand what you are...and WHO you are. You already made a choice (a very good one, I might add)...you DIDN'T molest your cousin, and now you need to understand more about the person you really are. This is why you are here...to learn and understand.

I am not going to jump all over you and call you an anti...I was just as confused and lost as you are when I first got here almost FIVE years ago (damn, it's been that long!)...I used to think that *I* could be a potential molester...that we ALL were potential molesters....but time and the wisdom of the members of this board have taught me otherwise.

If you have time...do an "author" search in the archives for posts by 28...and heck, search under my nic and read my early posts and see how lost and confused I was back then, and how the older, wiser posters helped me understand what I was going thru.

At any rate...confused or not, "anti" or not...I am here to help you in any way that I can. If I can impart some of the knowledge I've been given over the years and help to clear up some misconceptions for you...then that would make me very happy.

In the meantime...I hope you made it thru all of my post to the end and I hope some of what I said makes sense to you.

We all have a lot to learn in this world, and you're just beginning your journey here at GC. I hope you stick around and learn all that you can.

Take care,

Infinity