I agree that most girls deeply enjoy the company of a caring adult man, and that it does good things for their self-esteem. I know this from personal experience.

But - how many feel it between their legs? If they do get aroused, how many consciously associate it with a particular person?

The answers to these questions of course being skewed by our culture, but the culture being wrong doesn't automatically make another stance correct.

I felt the emotional validation without getting turned on, even when my dad told me how pretty I was. Granted, I'm not exactly an average sample (now preferring women or very feminine boys). But I wasn't repressed, either - I was a sexually active child.

Also, consider this question from an analysis of how the average heterosexual woman's attraction to men manifests. The average hetero man looks at Angelina Jolie and wants to fuck her ten minutes ago. She can do no wrong by him. I mean, look at her.

The average hetero woman looks at Brad Pitt and wants him to sweep her off her feet by massaging her self-esteem. After he goes blonde again. Then maybe she wants him to fuck her senseless after putting a huge diamond on her finger. But it has to be the right time. This being an ideal - a lot of women give it up more easily than this, but enjoy it far less.

Notice how I characterize the man as wanting to do something with the object of his attraction, and the woman as wanting something done with her by the object of her attraction.

Generalizations, all. But these stereotypes are a big part of our culture for a reason.

Which gives a girllover a slightly different task than a boylover. More responsibility, I'd say. A girl is more likely to seek someone who will help her define and like herself (whereas a boy wants to be shown things and choose how he will integrate them into himself, and is less aware of his own self-esteem). She'll be more susceptible to the sort of emotional trauma the antis ascribe to all such relationships.

Or, ask yourself the now-classic question sparked by the LeTourneau case: If this was an adult man with a little girl, how would you feel? Often this question assumes that you're okay with the woman-boy situation. The dynamic is not the same. Girls wind up virtually always seeing our bodies as commodities (yes, I walk down the street knowing that 90% of the men I see would pay money for my scrawny white ass).

That's not a good thing. It takes the soul out of sex and makes it about hard material gain (even flowers are an example of this in my book). This is a huge problem when you're talking about a little girl who makes no money and a man who (if he's good for anything) makes more than enough to support himself.

I guess my point is this. *thinks* Little girls need flaming gay guys as dads, to swoon over how pretty they are without even subliminally asking anything in return. Yeah. That's it.