However, Cat...

While I don't disagree with anything you say about the attractions of men and women being different, I do think that paedophiles fail to adjust to the pattern more often than not. I have since always read in accounts of how paeds (well, GLers, I should say... I've never read too much from the BLue side) feel their attraction stuff that fails to conform to the same general male attraction pattern that you describe, and that anyone can spot if they spend enough time with enough men. And since I've seen it enough times and since it does seem to fit my own feelings and experience, I do think there is a difference there, generally.

It still doesn't contradict your premise that "a man wants to do something and a woman wants something done", but it does add layers and nuances to the situation that outside observers usually fail to see (and others intentionally deny) and that make the average man-for-girl attraction different from the average man-for-woman attraction.

Yes, when I see a lg that I think is supremely sexy, the thought of "I wanna fuck her 10 minutes ago" will probably cross my mind too. But it will not be the first thought, neither will it be the predominant thought. Before that, I want to know her, to look into her eyes and hear her voice and laughter. I want to be her friend, and play with her and help her with her problems and issues. I want to hug her, hold her hand, cuddle with her and kiss her at random places before I ever really want to be sexual with her; and certainly more than I will ever want to be sexual with her. Sure, thinking of just saying "hi cutie wanna have some fun?" and right away ending up in bed with her, makes for a nice self-pleasure script later tonight; but it never works that way in real life. To me the way I relate to the girl and how much I can be there for her goes way before the thought of what she can do for me.

But that's just me - obviously, mileage might vary...