"I don't rightly care about a difference. I've been told I have an avoidant personality disorder and that children are an easy target for companionship because of their limited worldliness and or lack of life experience. I care not about the reason people are interested unless it actually is harmful to the children".
Society cares about the reason. You have to appeal to it.
Avoidant personality disorder? Do you accept that, or would you want a second opinion?
And also the label pedophile?
I also don't really care about the reason someone is attracted to children, personally, unless they pose some kind of threat.
But when appealing outside of the minor-attracted community for legal outlets and/or fulfillment of biological needs, the default view is "threat". Maybe it shouldn't be. Actually, almost certainly it shouldn't be. But to denoise the equation the first thing a minor-attracted person should do is stop using pedophile. That reduces the "threat". The second thing one should do is ascertain a quick, understandable, easy-to-reference phrase for describing themselves which doesn't call attention to what they are not. I explain that I'm developmentally delayed, so I'm actually like 13, and then people are like "ohhh that actually makes so much sense". So I'm now a fully outed and accepted girl-lover. I wear it on my sleeve, literally.
Pedo = child, and philia = erotic love.
What kind of love is it outside of the eros?
Is there any?
If no, you're a pedophile.
If yes, you're a girl-lover or a child-lover, and you can call yourself a minor-attracted person but the term pedophile refuses to consider anything outside of the eros and I'm mostly completely fine with that.
Love is infinite in conception. Embrace it, whatever it means to you.
I believe that is the primary message of the "alphabet soup" mouvement, and it aligns with my values.
I question what you find so evil about pride in one's sexuality.
I wear teen girls' clothing and shave my whole body and wear makeup. Most adults think I look gay, most tweens think I'm sexy as fuck. It has helped with my being accepted as an equal by society as a whole, and by girls.
I hate pedophiles too, according to society's interpretation of what one is. So do you, I surmise.
Submit to the evolution of language and invent a new term for yourself. Or, girl-lover or child-lover works fine.
Am I... making sense? How or how not?