Coercion vs. Authoritativeness

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Coercion vs. Authoritativeness

Posted by Hen-Wen on 2006-July-24 04:40:02 EDT, Monday

In reply to Re: Parents ARE opressors, generally... posted by turtle on 2006-July-24 04:29:58 EDT, Monday

I have as much right to coerce my child as to coerce any adult. If a child is doing something dangerous, then of course you are justified in intervening, just as you would be for anyone else. This is not coercion, it is concern.

You're right, people don't like being told what to do. So don't do it. Explain the situation in terms they will understand, and give them options. Don't want them eating cheetos? Don't buy cheetos. They'll think twice if they have to spend their own babysitting money on junk food.

And of course you are justified in setting reasonable boundaries in your own house. But ultimately, you can't force anyone to do what you want, and it's unethical to use force to do so.

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Coercion vs. Education - Dissident on 2006-July-24 23:43:06 EDT, Monday - (1 / 0 / 1)
- Hey, Dis-- - Hen-Wen on 2006-July-25 03:24:31 EDT, Tuesday - (2 / 0 / 0)
Re: Coercion vs. Authoritativeness - turtle on 2006-July-24 07:44:12 EDT, Monday - (1 / 0 / 11)
- The Cheetos conundrum. - Hen-Wen on 2006-July-24 13:26:01 EDT, Monday - (1 / 0 / 10)
  - He still got the Cheetos! - Infinity on 2006-July-24 16:16:43 EDT, Monday - (1 / 0 / 9)
    - That's great, Infinity! - Hen-Wen on 2006-July-24 18:02:45 EDT, Monday - (1 / 0 / 8)
      - ??? - Infinity on 2006-July-24 19:41:35 EDT, Monday - (1 / 0 / 7)
        
        You're right about Psych -- - Hen-Wen on 2006-July-25 03:19:13 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 0)
        
        Re: ??? - Hen-Wen on 2006-July-25 03:06:48 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 5)
        
        I think you're still not seeing my point. - Infinity on 2006-July-25 16:08:51 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 1)
        
        Ok, Inf -- - Hen-Wen on 2006-July-25 20:57:28 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 0)
        
        Re: ??? - turtle on 2006-July-25 05:00:54 EDT, Tuesday - (1 / 0 / 2)
        
        Thanks, I'm glad you understand. - Hen-Wen on 2006-July-25 14:34:41 EDT, Tuesday - (2 / 0 / 0)
        
        Re: ??? - Demosthenes on 2006-July-25 08:11:08 EDT, Tuesday - (2 / 0 / 0)