To answer your narrow question, I would say that we should prevent them from getting into such situations. In the hypothetical case of discovering an existing relationship, then things are a bit more complicated, but I think that the most liberal position should include ending its sexual aspect quickly.


children are the future. they are very important to listen to and obey. Too many posts have been about adults, they have little importance compared to the children. Is it only the exclusive pedos that see this?

If you are concerned about the welfare of girls, I don't think any perception shared by a group of pedos is to be given any special weight. If anyone needs a reminder that girls are not angels in reality, I'd suggest "The Secret Lives of Girls" (http://www.amazon.com/The-Secret-Lives-Girls-Aggression/dp/0743201078). It deals with sex and also aggression. The sex part sometimes includes abusing boys or younger girls. And girls shouldn't be hampered by a need to fit some "angel" stereotype. The way we feel about girls is primarily a property of US, not of the girls.

the question in my mind about if they want to play with men sexually, should 'we' (parents) stop them

You want to know if in some future society (which seems very far away) where it is legal and not a source of great stigma parents ought to accept it. It's incredibly hypothetical. If there's a girl who wants such activity, and if we can tell it won't harm her, and if the parents have a good feeling about it? I'm not totally sure about that neverland, but I do have the hunch that if you feel inclined to accept a girl's decision to have sex for fun, you also ought to accept a decision she might make to have sex for money.

But we have no rights to rule them; they are not slaves... But, I agree with you on some levels. We (adults) have no moral ground to influence them for our own desires.

Basically I agree, of course. But separating completely our desires and theirs is impossible. If nothing else, kids emulate their parents' tastes to some extent. And I suppose some parents from lower social class backgrounds try hard to hide that part of themselves so their kids can rise in the world? I think I've heard that.

My main contention is that when you weigh lots of pedophiles who would love to do sexual things with small girls (with the best loving intentions in many cases) with a very few small girls who might really be enthusiastic about sex, the risk of abuse is far too high. Keeping it illegal is a good idea.

My thinking of the day is that I wouldn't allow it with parental consent either. Although relatively few parents would consent for some quid pro quo of their own, it may be still much larger than the number of prepubescents who really would be interested in the sex. (I can also easily imagine some unscrupulous pedophiles blackmailing parents to force their consent).

I'm most interested in real policies, not hypotheticals piled one on top of another.