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I'm sorry you feel this way, but please reconsider

Posted by Dissident on Sunday, February 16 2020 at 1:59:21PM
In reply to Why I’m NOT returning and probably never will. posted by GL_in_lyrics on Wednesday, February 12 2020 at 3:36:48PM

And please reconsider for the following reasons, my friend.

You have conceded that you are dealing with "severe mental disturbances that prevent you from functioning properly," correct? This can, and has, caused many among us in the past to moralize and perceive those on the pro-choice side as "pretending to care for children, but having beliefs contrary to that notion". More specifically, it has caused those in emotional distress to misperceive us as being a bunch of "pervs" who are "only interested in 'one thing'" when in actuality we are advocating for choice and empowerment of kids. However, those who are having serious problems with their emotions read what we say entirely wrong, fall into a moralizing trap, and take on a powerful authoritarian view that they mistake for "genuine concern." Libertarian views and freedom often come off as scary and even "selfish" to those who are in a serious mental funk, which is why so many people with mental issues are drawn to various forms of conservatism and fundamentalism.

I have personally seen this happen on these boards and elsewhere, and I have been personally accused of being a "perv" with only "one thing" on my mind by such individuals who are in such a severe state of mind - simply because I am not ashamed of or denouncing of the sexual component of my attractions. And despite making the emotional, social, and aesthetic aspects of it, where I respect young people as fully realized human beings, very clear throughout all discussions. But the "sexuality is bad" notion is a powerful one in Western culture, and it's considered a worse poison than botulism when applied to kids.

Now, old friend, I do not know the full nature of the flame war you had, but based on what you said and the emotional problems you admit to having, I wonder if this common scenario-slash-misunderstanding-slash-moralizing accusations-slash inevitable flame wars-slash inevitable hurt feelings on both sides ended up happening yet again. And this, in turn, led to the appearance of "distrust and paranoia" among us when you suffered from counter-accusations.

I do sympathize with the emotional issues you are having, because it's very, very difficult being a MAP in today's society. You routinely hear numerous horrid things about us that are patently untrue, and you have the constant worry of losing employment and experiencing hatred from those you love. This can cause all kids of emotional issues and anxieties... and also, unfortunately, this makes it very, very tempting to internalize the nature of the hatred directed at us and re-directing it at our own community, sometimes in a desperate attempt to make us more acceptable to ourselves as a good person who cares about children, and to the greater society we feel to have rejected us.

But keep this in mind, my friend: adopting the notions of piety and morality about children by a society that is quick to raise the swords whenever a child is engaged in any type of sexual activity but more than willing to tolerate a military-industrial-complex that drops bombs on their homes, subjects them to legislation that impoverishes billions of them, and sets up legal situations where they are disenfranchised as people and routinely subjected to a plethora of abuses in the home and out of sight from the greater community, not to mention in the walls of a mandatory "education" system based on the former Prussian military regime, is one you may want to reconsider emulating or seeking the approval of.

Even though we are by far the minority in this society, our community is nevertheless the one that understands you best, and by and large faces the same fears and anxieties. I understand you want us to be the best we can be, both for ourselves and for the kids we love, and I desire that too. This is why we should not let the anxieties tossed upon us by an ignorant, authoritarian majority turn us against each other. We are, granted, a diverse lot who will disagree on many things, but in my 20+ years as a part of this community, we are by and large a good lot who do not come up wanting when compared morally to the majority of teleiophiles and the type of society they have collectively created.

Just some food for thought, and please consider staying, my friend.






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