I hear you, and although I may not have explained it right and it may be my fault, you have misunderstood so I should really clarify:

I said: "I have been known to pat her lip with my finger in a playful way"

You developed this into: "don't do anything to manipulate her into doing it, like putting your finger on her lips and patting them. lol, I still cannot believe that you did that and didn't think that was "asking"!"

But I did not say I put my finger on her lips, and patted them. It is hard to explain life actions in text, but imagine walking past a friend, tapping the end of their nose once with your fingertip and making a 'pop' sound with your mouth as you do it.

I maintain what I said in that she would never know that I was trying to initiate the finger ritual. To her she takes the pop for what it is, but then a second later you can see *her* face light up as *she* thinks she's remembered something she likes, and then grabs my finger. If she were to look back on this, she would never think I had asked for it - trust me I know because I am the one in the situation and am good at reading people. I just thought I should clear that up ;)

But, now you have given very good advice which I knew deep down anyway, I will no longer even jog her memory any more. It is entirely up to her.