Another question, can children be seductive and if so how should adults handle it?

My view is that children can be seductive.

It may be me being a little too innocent but I think that younger children can be seductive without realising what they're doing. For example, a few years back I had a friend ask me if their 7 year old daughter could spend the day with me because I was working from home that day and she had to go somewhere. She'd only recently turned 7. Well I had a bond with her daughter so I was happy to have her spend the day. So I put some Disney movie on for her and returned to the study to work. After 10 or 15 minutes I thought it sounded too quiet so I went to check on her and she was gone. Well she couldn't have gone far so I searched and then I reached the top of the stairs and found a trail of discarded clothing leading to my bedroom. In there I found a very naked little girl in bed with a very big smile on her face.

How did I react? Well panic hit and I quickly grabbed her clothes, told her to dress and to come downstairs. When she came down I'd calmed a bit and so explained why she shouldn't do that. I defused the situation quickly and there was no repeat. Don't get me wrong it was a beatiful view and part of me thought "to hell with work, lets spend the day having fun" but the stronger part of me knew it wouldn't be worth the risk so my reaction was to defuse the situation quickly.

So in this situation she was acting very seductively but I don't know why or whether she really understood what she was offering. Maybe she did, maybe she had experience elsewhere or maybe she'd just seen it somewhere and thought it looked fun. I think she didn't really understand that she was being seductive, to her it was a fun game. Another man might have reacted differently and if he did I can't say I'd see him as being fully to blame, he'd be just reacting to the situation with less self control.


As girls get older I think they do understand the difference more and can become seductive because they want sex.

An example of this is another girl I know who is the daughter of another good friend. Again we had a bond and this one day I went to visit for lunch. Her mum was cooking and I was in the living room when she came in from her bedroom, red faced and flustered and just sat on the sofa, opened her legs and pointed down and said through gritted teeth "you want this?"

Again, how did I react?

Again I panicked knowing her mum was in the next room and quickly said "don't do that" and she ran back to her bedroom. She was 9 at the time and clearly she'd been in her room masturbating, was very turned on and thought she'd try her luck with me. I have good self control and know not to cross these lines so defused the situation quickly again. Again, another man might have been unable to resist and again I wouldn't say he'd be to blame if he had reacted differently. To this day I still look back on that and wonder whether I should have reacted differently because she clearly wanted it and understood what she wanted but then I think I probably did the sensible thing.


So we all have different experiences and views. So the question is can children be seductive and if so how should we react? Should we always be controlled or are there times when it might be OK to have mutual physical love?