I enjoy your posts; we share many viewpoints.
As for the question, I think we absolutely do have a responsibility. It might be sad to accept, but I think there will always be at least some who are hostile towards pedophiles, as there are with homosexuals and transsexuals etc.
But I think we should definitely be fighting for it to be broadly accepted as the legitimate and natural sexuality that it is. It is the hope of things one day being better for our kind that keeps me going. But it will require a complete rethinking of the way society perceives itself, as was required for the LGBT revolution. I think our fight will be far harder though, seeing as people are so dogmatically attached to their idea of what innocence means, and we shouldn't ignore that fact. But I do like to believe it is ultimately inevitable. Society's way of regarding childhood is so gravely outdated, and the small amount of research that has been done supports that view. It's actually no surprise child psychology and its relation to pedophilia has been so under-researched. People are terrified that their false perception of what a child should be will be shown to be wrong, and they are right to be terrified.
But I think it applies to more than just ourselves. It is not a self-serving mission. I feel that being a childlover has helped me to see the systemic problems in society. Childhood is what makes a person, and education fails to paint a realistic portrait of what life truly entails. Sexual repression is thought to be the biggest factor of social anxieties, resulting in unhealthy sublimations and erratic adult behaviour. And we need to be showing society that it's not just about ourselves, but for their children and the future of society. For example, with the LGBT phenomenon, younger men are beginning to no longer feel ashamed of expressing more feminine virtues, and the opposite is true for women. It's beautiful and liberating, and I think a similar positive effect can be had by normalising childhood sexuality. There is now a horizontal spectrum for sexuality, but there also needs to be a vertical one to accompany it, to add another dimension to sexuality if you will. Sexuality is about so much more than how we gratify ourselves, it shapes our entire identity and personality as humans. Children have the right (and necessity) to explore this too.
I spent most of my childhood worrying that I would grow up to be a bad person because of my curiosity and 'bad' thoughts, my pubertal years were spent writhing in sexual angst and self-shame, and I fell prey to a debilitating illness in my late teenage years. I am lucky to be fine now. But this is not the case for far too many people. When we deny sexual curiosity in children we create the perfect environment for an overwhelming, traumatic pubertal experience. Everything in society is so tainted by sexual hysteria, resulting in two opposing extremes: sexual repression and sexual exploitation. We need to do away with both. I confess to being a bit of a radical idealist, but nothing was ever achieved in any society (or any field of anything) by sticking to stale conservative notions of maintaining the status quo (but perhaps, some disasters were avoided, but you don't know until you try).
Starry-eyed dreams aside, I am happy, on the whole, to be who I am in the here and now, with an enlightened community. But I don't think complacency is a comforting thing; there must be a middle-ground to be had. Any more thoughts?