Re: A bad anti argument I hear

"While that is an uncommon career goal for modern Western 20somethings it is still true that if this is her single minded focus, do NOT expect her to set it aside to cater to your preferences. If you aren't ready to settle down or have kids, some might be willing to wait or compromise, but if this is essential to her adult identity and you catch her mid-trajectory, expect to be kicked to the curb if you would stand between her and this goal."

Oh, sure. Her goal is her career or her marriage, not specifically you.

My point is that if you are the means for her goal (and not a distraction/pastime) then you are in position to manipulate her. If her goal is a career and she depends on a boss for her career, she is vulnerable to manipulation on casting couch; if her goal is a marriage and she is committed to some boyfriend, she is vulnerable to be manipulated by him.