I forgot to say, you mention that you're wondering whether he used you to get close to her. That may or may not be the case, but it doesn't matter. (It matters to your feelings of course, but not to the situation.)

If he used you to get to her, then he may in fact be dangerous.

If he didn't, if it was just a totally situational thing where he suddenly found himself doing something he hadn't consciously intended to do, he may not exactly be dangerous, but he's still stepped over the line of what's acceptable behavior.

Either way, if she was at all unwilling, you can't afford to let your own feelings override her needs.

Either way, it's your daughter's comfort and safety you're concerned about, or should be. Not his motives. Not your feelings. Don't let your curiosity about him and his motives and feelings keep you in the relationship any longer than you safely can. (Safely for her, I mean.)

And remember, this is a pedophile talking. Not some wing-nut anti or moral zealot. I'm not saying his feelings [if he has any] are immoral, illegal, or inappropriate. I'm saying that what he evidently *did* was unethical, which to my mind is more important than the illegality.

And for God's sake don't let anybody get ahold of her who is going to lecture her about how 'damaged' she was by this. The only thing that will 'damage' her is if you fail to give her the moral support she needs. And that moral support includes ditching him, if that's what she needs.

--Jensman