It is difficult to compose words that could ever help anybody feel better in a situation like this. Please know that my thoughts are with you and I feel for you and this individual (and his family) very deeply. I only wish that there was something we (girl lovers) might have been able to do to help him deal with these feelings rather than taking his own life. If only he'd found GC first... I think that's what saved me years ago.
I know you can make it through this, and you have friends here for support. It's not fun at all to find your own community having such terrible feelings towards this man who was a victim of society, not the other way around. But for those who are verbally hating this man for all he never did, there are also people who are genuinely grieving - yourself for one.. and I'm certain you're not the only child lover who may be feeling this loss more deeply than others, even inside your own community. The people whose reactions are hatred aren't hardly worth a second thought. They aren't worth the pain they're causing.
Please let me know if you need a shoulder to cry on.