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My therapy basically consisted of believing what my brain was telling me, i.e. in understanding the origin of the desires in the first place and in not believing any of the justifications that I tried to use to accept them. I have used techniques to control myself which have mostly been effective like many people here. The final process of eliminating the sexual desire was in releasing the grasp I had on it. I eventually came to the conclusion somehow that I did not need the sexual attraction, it was not warranted and I just let it go. My aesthetic appreciation of young girls and my attraction to children in general because of their nature has not faltered, it has gotten stronger if anything. I take just as much delight in seeing young girls wherever as I did before but any sexual attraction is gradually evaporating. Most of this is reinforced by the feelings I have now which are immeasurably better than previously.

That's great Moth. If your perception of your situation is correct, and who am I to know, then your pedophilic attractions were not integrated into your sexual identity. Pedophilia is wrong for you. You don't seem to recognize, however, that for many (most?) people around here, this is not the case at all. Pedophilia is not simply an aberration grafted onto their basic sexual identity. It is at the core of their sexual identity.

Try to find your present attractions (to 21+ females, I'm guessing) wrong. If you simply respond, well it isn't wrong because..., then you are missing the point. Imagine you are in an environment where it is unacceptable for you to have a relationship with a woman, where you could both get into a heap of trouble for it, like in Orwell's 1984. Could you manage to convince yourself it's wrong, Moth? And if you did manage to do so, what would that do to your psyche? Would that be healthy?

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