Firstly, I just want to say thank goodness for Girl Chat! There are those of us who don't want to be kept completely silent, but aren't willing to come out. I think that this place is a good place to help us all deal with society and our feelings, etc...

Also, I just want to wish Remo the best of luck on this. Things seem to be going in some rather negative cycles for you and that's never good.:( Honestly, I'd have to agree that keeping quiet about this is a good idea. Now, though, I think it's a bit too late. I don't know if the letter is good or bad. Perhaps you should discuss this with your wife?

I myself have had moments where I was almost outted. Or at least where I thought someone knew. Twice that I can recall off hand. Once my sister asked me the question "Have you ever 'harmed' a child?" It came almost out of nowhere and scared the crap out of me. I of course told her no and it turned out she was feeling guilty about this incedent when we were kids that I personally feel was nothing. sigh. And the second time was when some friends of mine were discussing kids for some reason, and one of them turned to me and said something like, "Of course we all know why kids absolutely love you!" Again I almost had a panic attack. Strange that all things considdered. It turned out his reasoning was because "I'm just like them" or something. shrug.

-Pathos