28,

I appreciate your reponse. I know I mentioned age, but I pretty much knew "liberation" wouldn't be based on age. But I also see that "liberation" doesn't mean the same thing to everyone. I have also noticed that when we talk about "liberation", how someone defines it is different depending on what the age base that they are attracted to is. Or at least how they present it. I know you are primarily (or even exclusively) attracted to pre pubescent children and thus adjust what you say about it to that age group. Someone who is primarily or exclusively attracted to adolecents will adjust what they say to fit that age group. And not that it is done on purpose, but that is just where that individuals mindset is. If one is going to advocate "liberation", how can they just talk about one age group, and not the other. Meaning only talk about what it means for pre pubescents or only what it means for adolescents?

So let me see if I get you right here. You speak strictly about pre pubescent children and that the only "liberation" they should receive is the right to choose when they want to explore sexuality issues. And AOC laws prevent them from doing that. (which I do agree with) But from what I got from you is that it is the responsibility of the parents to do this. Or at least, the parents are the ones that should be able to allow them to explore it with someone that they (the parents) feel is a "safe" person. And if this is right, how is this giving that power to the children? it seems to me that the power lies with the parent.

What are your opinions regarding adolescents using the same questions I brought up the first time?

This whole issue brings something up that just happened last night with me. My daughter who is 7, asked me if she had to have a baby when she grew up. (we have been talking about having babies recently and she wanted to know if it hurt to have a baby because she wants to be a mom when she grows up lol) I told her no, that it is the females choice whether or not to have a baby. It was obvious I was confusing her since she didn't understand how babies came about so the only thing I knew to do was to explain how babies are made. So i started to go into it with her and explain how this happens. She thought it was gross that the boys private goes into the girls private in order for the sperm to get into the girl. (and no, i didn't say man or woman, I said girl or boy) I wanted to go into details about the pleasures of sex but something inside of me stopped me and I didn't. You see, she likes a boy at school and has been calling him her boyfriend. Well, her teacher told her she was too young to have a boyfriend. This did upset me because I didn't see where the teacher got off telling her that. To me, it wasn't her place to tell my daughter that. I also know my daughter likes to tell people things. Especially if she is told that she shouldn't say anything to anyone. I guess I was afraid that if I went into too many details at her age, and she repeated it to a friend at school and was overheard by a teacher, that might rouse suspicion on how she knew this. Being in the position that I am in, I can definitely see how something as innocent as me explaining the pleasures of sex to my daughter could quickly backfire on me and cause someone to begin questioning how she knew this. I do wish I didn't have to worry about that and that I could really explain things to her. It actually really angered me that I had to zip my lips because of what someone else would think. So in the end, she knows where babies come from, but she doesn't know how wonderful and pleasureable it can be.

Take Care
Cinn