Aaahhh... let's see... first things first.

The mind boggles. Please unboggle mine.

Will do!!

It is so HARD... I find it hard to know if I could ever refuse such an invitation. Does any human muster such willpower?

Okay. Here's some very, simple, realistic advice. You should do one of two things.

1. Pooper dat, get v&, meet a bunch of new like-minded friends in prison, and then post your adress on the internet with the help of your local police department

...or...

2. Don't.


Neither one of these choices is right. Neither one of these choices is wrong. Both of them have different properties. Quit playing the "l33t inner struggle between humanity and society" game, look at the properties associated with those paths and make a conscious choice.

...and man the fuck up and take responsibility for the choice you made. Whichever one it is. There's nothing more complicated about it than that, but rational choice is way, way cooler than pretend psychodrama for social sake.

yesterday she pretended to hide something of mine, and the only place it could be was in her knickers. She then set about pulling her knickers down, turning round, showing me everything, then proving it wasn't hiding by her micro-boobies either by repeatedly flashing those.

Okay. Brings back memories of a charming restaraunt, actually...

... what is it she is trying to 'take' from me?

Your innocents. Which will make you get pregnate.

I find it hard not to see this behaviour with my adult eyes.

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THERE IS NO "ADULT." THERE IS NO "CHILD." THERE IS NO MAGIC LINE WHICH SEPERATES YOU AS HUMAN BEINGS. QUIT DEHUMANIZING YOUR NEIGHBOR, IT MAKES BABY JESUS CRY.

Thank you.

If any other female were to flash their breasts and nether region at me, I'd take it as an instant invitation to develop the relationship physically.

...what if you were both in a nudist colony?

"You might be a rapist if..."

I feel she may be 1 step away from asking me to play doctors and nurses.

Okay. Go to the store. You will need to get a tincture of iodine and an exacto knife...

Of course like a good GLer I made an excuse

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1. You seem to have a very mistaken idea of what "good" happens to mean. "Compassionate" is not a synonym for "submissive."

2. I don't suppose, "like a good GLer," you've ever considered, I dunno... open and honest communication in a peer-based paradigm, by any chance?

I feel perhaps she doesn't really know why she's doing it

Barring organic brain dysfunction, I have never known anyone on this earth, from newborn to end-of-life geriatric, who did not know why they undertook any voluntary action.

You may not know why another person undertakes an action. They often do. Their opinion on why is also probably more valid than yours unless you are the one undertaking the action, too.

Then again, she is very aware that 'men like boobs' and now she has some...

Well, then she has a tragically narrowed field of view. Some do, some don't, and nonmen like boobs. Le sigh, what a poisoned wasteland we have made of our world.

Anyways...

seriously... what is it she is trying to 'take' from me? Why does my LGF keep flashing me?

God only knows. Occam's razor otoh (utfse) suggests that there is a very simple answer.

You make it very fucking easy to bully you for laughs.

Hell, you even said it yourself...

Of course I am a little flustered by this...

Thar ya go.

"Social construction" is just a polite way of saying "batshit lunacy." You, obviously, are a slave to it, and actually believe there is some magical division between "adult persuns" and "child persuns" which dictates everyone's personal worldview down to the tiniest detail, that nudity is always a mating ritual (how the hell did people breed before clothes, anyway? And who are you trying to seduce when you're alone in the shower?), that "good" and, presumably, "evil," relate entirely to whether your thoughts correlate with a fucking television set (norly, I can quote you), and so on and so forth.

This means that there is a very good chance that your yf is more mentally healthy than you, and more consciously intelligent than you. 'n, well, there's two fascinating things, here...

1. It's actually really, really freaking hilarious to watch people go into conniptions for no rational reason at all, let alone so easily.

...and...

2. The batshit lunacy of mistaking a minute, two-dimensional irrational social construction for some sort of objective reality makes no sense.

2.2 Things which make no fucking rational sense incite human curiosity to try to figure out, which usually involves reproducing the dataset repeatedly so you can study it.

That's the simplest answer. Is Occam's razor correct in this instance? Fuck only knows. Human behavior is, in fact, often fascinatingly complex. In fact - just to throw one of near-literally infinite possibilities out for the lulz - she could quite concievably want to nail you AND be completely, totally, entirely distracted from this at all by the fact that it's so freaking funny to watch how totally you fall apart for no reason.

Brute-force combinatorics should dump a whole lot of scenarios. Most of them revolve around the possibility that she is not quite as neurotic as you. ;)

And...

Basically, she's a big flirt!

Yes, that is one of several perfectly possible solutions. "Many of several," in fact, though most of the rest devolve into finding you downright goofy and forgetting entirely about flirting with you at all once she's noticed how rediculously uptight you are, lol.

Buuut... hey. She's the one that knows her life. Not other people, and not the use of class to strip her of independent personality, lol.

Last but not least...

Am I going to upset her by not giving her what she is trying to take from me?
Will she feel snubbed?

Probably, but the keyword here is that we're talking about you. 'n you, apparently, seem to think of her as a "child" rather than a person rather than, say, openly communicating with her as an equal and as a person in her own right.

"Not bothering to engage in communication, at all, ever" is actually the quickest way to an "acceptable versus rejected" binary scenario. In fact, it's... sort of the only way. Open discourse is... an ongoing discourse, and much more healthy a form of human interaction.

Of course, open, honest, peer to peer bidirectional communication also isn't projecting what you decide is in her head and telling her what you think about it. It mostly consists of talking about what you think of you, and asking her what she thinks of her. Works much, much better that way.

A little sensitivity is reccomended. I mean... like your last question notes, it's occasionally a slight risk of being an emotionally fragile situation... so... sensitivity, does u has it? I mean... even asking "why are you pulling your underwear down" can carry with it the baggage that nonnudism is "normal" and not really giving a shit about fabric-anxieties has a "purpouse"... which is a load of horseshit, whether she has a rationale related to cloth taboo or not...

Well... actually, from reading your post, noticing your inability to contemplate any world outside cloth-taboo, your inability to concieve of people as individual people in their own right outside of such reductionist and dehumanizing concepts as "adult" and "child," and the like... no, u does not has it. The question is... can you gets it?

Sigh. So much backstory. If you assume she holds a social construct which she does not believe in or give credit to, you are accusing her of something within that construct which may not have anything to do with her thoughts, feelings, or intentions, which can be hurtful. I'm... actually surprised you've gone through life without having these conversations, nor encountered the weights of these conversations, nor for that matter, if you're schlupping (eww) adult women, never had the deep moral concern of not wanting to foist harmful taboos on your offspring against their consent. I'll admit that I may hang out with an unsual crowd of people, but that last one has been the major concern for every new parent I've ever met that I've known well enough to talk to.

...and, well... sensitivity and gentleness in discourse, not to mention meeting with equals and freely talking with and respecting your partner as wholly nonviolently as possible in word and deed has been a major concern of pretty much every gl I've known. I'm sort of surprised you haven't run into this before...

Ah, well. Her motives could be anything. The simplest answer is that it's really easy to make you blush and flustered.

Have fun.