You're right that privately, there's a lot of people out there that are open to the idea of child love, or at the very least wouldn't strangle a friend who admits it. But ask them to say that they support you is an entirely different thing, and much rarer. No one wants to be labeled a pedophile supporter. If you're outed, you'd be lucky to have any of them stay by your side.

I am out in RL to only two people, so I have not yet been in a position where one of them would have to decide whether or not to stay by my side. I am not sure how my wife would handle it, but I am quite sure the friend I told would support me. His wife, however, might put an end to me hanging out alone with their daughter :-(

One of the quotes at the top of my blog is relevant here.

In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. Martin Luther King Jr.

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