I believe we lose many good pedos to "evil" because they take the virped route. Self-hate followed by avoidance of what is good for their mental health, the company of the kids they are attracted to.
The online pedophile communities seem to consist mainly of two camps, sick freaks or hyper sensitive SJWs. Sites like this are rare/dying. I think you are right, the genuine ones are living life. That is why I barely visit tbh.