All that is abuse. Sexual stuff too. I don’t like any of it. My pedophillia Won’t have it. Mine is kind and sensitive to how she responds every second that passes.
Abuse is clearly recognized in the moment. It is not elusive in the moment. Denial of it results in shame and guilt and damage. Clear as a bell. Pedos here do not abuse. We love and are loved.
Pardon me if I pretend to speak for more than myself.