... I have met more than a few VP members (and "Virpeds" in general) who are not the raging misandrists that Ethan and some of the others you have met are. They are decent people who simply feel as they do without loathing any particular group of people, or wanting revenge-based politics inflicted on men (or adults who "have the interest," etc). They simply subscribe to the mainstream societal conception of Childhood Innocence, and some believe that experiencing a degree of guilt for their feelings helps keep them on the right side of the law. However, they do not hate pro-choicers, or men, and are willing to give us (usually) unbiased support whenever needed.

These individuals simply find themselves mixed into the same apple cart as the regressive misandrists who truly dislike the pro-choice stance and see it as a threat to the maintenance of the social order they favor -- which is more or less the same neoliberal world order we have now.

It's too easy to fall into the temptation of embracing and returning their hate and vengeance-based policies. After all, our ideology doesn't make us inherently better. Only our actions and emotional state of mind determine that. We will also always be flawed ourselves, and we need to always be diligent about that. One way to do that is to never allow those who hate (whomever they may be) to bring that same feeling out of us, otherwise we quickly cede the moral high ground.

That is why, as much as I dislike the anti-choice ideology under general principle, I do not encourage disliking all individuals who hold it as people. I think, rather, we should judge them as people on a case-by-case basis, and keep our own potential for hate and uncontrolled anger under wraps for our own sake.

Just thought I would trot that out there for whatever it may have been worth, my friend. But it's what I truly believe based on my own experience.