"I'm not gonna pretend that there's 'patriarchy.' But most workplace culture was created by Bros to benefit Bros, so its no surprise that the first to fall in a settling of accounts are gonna be those who behaved like Caligula."

I agree. And I want to be sympathetic. I mean, I am. But we also need to practice discretion. Everybody, great and small, is being lumped together and burned in the same pit these days. It's never been kosher to admit that you like toddlers, but in this world today, it doesn't even feel safe anymore to let on that you think teenagers can be attractive - an age old truth. There is no distinction allowed between respectful and abusive behavior. The attraction itself is treated as evidence of abuse.