Re: I agree with Butterfly on this one...

I'll phrase it this way, Dissident. If I am raising my child in the manner that I believe is both right and beneficial, and someone comes along and either actively tries to undermine me or passively does so, I will remove that person from my child's life. As they grow older, they will be given more freedom of choice, to whatever extent they can understand the consequences of their decisions.

You state, "The entire community can do that, as can various support groups that modern technology makes possible." I both agree and disagree with this. I would allow my child to learn about and understand other points of view, but would strongly encourage that which I believe is right and beneficial. Unfortunately, when an "entire community" is allowed to "raise a child," conflicting (not just opposing) points of view come into play and undermine each other.

Again, it is age-appropriateness. I suspect (maybe I'm wrong) that if you had, say, a 7 year old child, and a a Fundamentalist Christian came along and started telling your child things that you disagree with, you would want your child to no longer be around that person. Well, guess what... that Fundamentalist is part of your community. The problem I have observed often with the "It takes a village" mentality is that people only believe it when the community tends to agree with their individual viewpoint.