Yes, it is personal. No doubt. And needs to be or it becomes inhuman. To me, that is the big picture.

But see, luvme, the big picture is very personal, because the community takes it very personal that this society has thrown us into the middle of a brutal moral panic and witch hunt for the past few decades. The fact that it enforces a form of oppression on the youths we love that makes them vulnerable to the actual people who subject them to all forms of abuse the most often is something we take very personal also. And that means, of course, that there is a lot more at stake to many of us than simply our own personal little nest egg. Fighting widespread inhumanity is, well...the very antitheses of inhuman, my friend.

Yes, love takes many different forms. And I never said or implied that the intellectualizing I was reading was 'cold'. There is no doubt of the genuine feelings behind it. But having the responsibility of taking care of children should be respected, especially if the caretaking is done by a pedophile, and without any harm and only good results.

Caretaking is greatly respected by us. That's part of our widespread concerns, in fact. But that encompasses all the younger people under care, rather than just one in particular. I don't believe any of us are against your role as a caretaker, and I'm sorry that you may have been made to feel that way.