Sorry. I believe that right ultimately comes from the parent.
Which, all things considered, is equating parenthood with ownership. Hence, you will be challenged by the general pro-choice stance here, which accepts youth liberation as espoused by organizations like NYRA, ASFAR, and the FreeChild Project. This stance, simply stated, considers those we today deem "underage" to be autonomous individuals who are not the de facto property of their parents; and that parents are caregivers carrying out an important responsibility, but not the equivalent of owners who should control every single personal decision their children under a certain age make solely on the basis of those parents' personal moralistic beliefs, attitudes, and convictions. The popularity of the children-as-property-of-their-parents belief today is the modern equivalent of how women were once considered the glorified property of their husbands, and black chattel slaves the property of their white slave masters. Those attitudes eventually went the way of the dinosaur despite the huge level of support they had in the past, and pro-choicers are working lawfully to see that all other forms of ownership are likewise brought to extinction.
Her mother puts her with me with an obligation of keeping her from things such as this happening to her. I will not break that trust.
I'll give you a real life but partially hypothetical view of how I would handle this, in a manner that compromises with honoring the trust my friends who are parents grant to me, but at the same time, not betraying what I believe to be the inalienable rights to privacy of the youth in question.
My friend Dave, whom I have been close friends with since middle school, and is well aware I'm a hebephile, has a 14-year-old daughter. He is a good guy and a good father, but he has no respect whatsoever for his daughter's privacy, and he infantalizes her badly (this makes me worry about how she will handle life when she is 18 and legally on her own, but that's a whole other topic for another time). He's not nearly as computer savvy as she is (having grown up with computers, unlike him), so he has a few of her aunts secretly monitoring her Internet activities behind her back, specifically to make sure she isn't accessing any sites that feature what he considers pornography on them (according to what he told me.
Out of respect for him, I would not tell her that he is monitoring her activities (I'm confident she will find out herself eventually, if she doesn't know already, but that's beside the point), and if she asked me to help her violate his rules in some way, I would refuse her request. On the other hand, however, if I found out somehow that she was violating his rules, I wouldn't report it back to him either, unless I somehow had good reason to believe she was somehow in serious danger. I would just say to her, and to myself, "I didn't see that/I didn't hear that. Let's be clear on this, end of subject."
Of course, I am very rarely ever around her alone, and never when her father isn't somewhere in the house, because I do not want to be accused of anything (I get very paranoid and anxiety-ridden whenever I might be put in a sitch when I'm alone with an AG out of fear of being accused of trying to hit on her by someone). Nevertheless, I do consider her a niece and care about her very much in that platonic capacity, as her family is like family to me. That is how I would compromise between my respect for her dad (which is great) and also my level of respect for her as an autonomous individual (which is also great).
If a mother puts her child with you and you violate that trust by willingly saying that you will allow sexual contact with the child if you come to believe its OK without doing anything about it. Sorry in that case I think you are in the wrong.
Well, in my case, the girl in question (whom I'll call Renee), is an adolescent, I wouldn't see myself as "in charge" of her per se. Nevertheless, I would never encourage her to have sexual contact with someone, nor give her "permission" to do it. On the other hand, I wouldn't put myself in a position to be making that type of decision for her one way or the other too. But as noted above, if I found out she was engaged in it consensually, after making sure she was using protection and precautions, and giving her info on reputable places she can go for support online anonymously (no, not GC!), I would stay out of it.
I don't believe a 10 year old has the right to do whatever they desire.
And it's a good thing you weren't a black person in the late 18th-mid-20th century, nor a woman during that time period and several decades beyond that (you wouldn't have been able to vote until 1920 in the U.S.). Before you say "that's comparing apples and oranges!", consider that this may be the view today, but it would not have been the view had you lived back then. And people we today consider underagers (at least boys, at any rate) once had a lot more rights and respect based on individual merits than they do today, until the onset of the Industrial Revolution set a chain of political and economic events into motion that robbed them of these rights. That is a sitch which that youth liberation movement is now fighting to correct.
And that it is my absolute right and more so the parents right to judge/condemn any relationship the child has.
Legally speaking, yes. And I certainly do keep that in mind and make allowances for it, as I noted above. But the moral right? That is what we are arguing against, and that is what those of the main faction of the pro-choice stance, as well as the youth lib movement (which has nothing to do with the MAP community), are working to amend. But as I have noted before, I caution anyone against confusing an inalienable right with power.
Sorry but that is what I believe.
Understood. I appreciate your honesty, and that is, in fact, what the great majority currently believes. No need to apologize for that, even here. But please just understand that the majority of the MAP community does not adhere to the anti-choice stance, and the entirety of the youth lib movement--which you will end up being familiarized with here--likewise does not believe that. After much more time here, having the chance to take alternative views into consideration that you are highly unlikely to get the chance to see elsewhere before they get censored, who knows what the future may bring. As long as you are polite about your views, I will endeavor to be polite in return, even though I think frustration on both our parts should be expected from time to time too. Further, you are going to encounter anger here from some of the pro-choicers from time to time, as not everyone in the community is going to be content with simply accepting the draconian effects on both our lives, and the lives of youths under 18, that result from these laws; not to mention the police state mentality that is rapidly growing in the West in a general sense in part because of these laws.