Re: Can't vs. Not Allowed

Also (and I'm sure any guys who, like myself, wanted to lose it at an earlier date but couldn't for social and/or parental reasons will back me up here), NOT having sex when you wanted it can be every bit as harmful and degrading as having sex too early is for other folks.

Agreed. I grew up in an Evangelical Christian community, with an over-watchful mother who made sure I understood that reputable girls were not at all interested in sex, and a father who made sure I understood that no girl would ever be interested in me anyhow - to the point that on occasions when a girl did show an interest in me, I could only presume that it was a cruel joke at my expense. That Christian community was also united in supporting the notion that girls are never interested in sex or in boys, and made sure I understood that even to be attracted to girls was a great sin and a great weakness.

I figured out I liked girls a little before I turned six. Growing up in that environment bordered on torture.