Re: Do 8yo girls know what they're doing?

It sounds to me like she really likes you, explaining the notes and the kissing, and wanting to sleep in the same room as you. The sucking behavior may be comfort-related, although she probably chooses you for it as she's comfortable with you. If she likes you in a sexual way I don't know, or really care. Given that she enjoys giving back rubs but not receiving them, she sounds like a pleaser, someone who enjoys pleasing others. I think it'd be wise to verbally acknowledge her affection, and tell her how much you appreciate it. If you get her to think that certain socially-acceptable forms of intimacy are sufficient for you, then she should stop pursuing other forms of intimacy.