guess I should clarify a little

I meant to say that I think it is commonly stated or implied here that little girls can be fulfilled or have their lives improved by having a romantic relationship with an older person, even with one who they are not sexually attracted to. So given that, do you think it would've been worth overcoming the lack of attraction in order to reap the benefits of a romantic relationship when you were prepubescent? 'Romantic relationship' meaning involving romantic feelings (infatuation, or maybe emotional intimacy.) Actually I can't come up with a definition of 'romantic relationship' that I'm confident about, although I'm sure it shouldn't have sexual activity as a prerequisite.

I could've included females in the poll but didn't want to confuse what I'm trying to say with too much gender-juggling. I screwed up the meaning bad enough with what's already there.

Some of you don't seem to detach sexual attraction from other forms of attraction, or imply that a romantic relationship is impossible without sexual attraction. I imagine it is possible, but am unsure. And I'm not suggesting that all girls be systematically forced into romantic relationships with older men.

I have a bad habit of sometimes overgeneralizing when saying 'you'.