As a preamble, let me say that I believe Pedophilia to be a sexual orientation; because it demonstrates all the features of one.

Further, Pedophiles represent as wide a spectrum of humanity as those of any other orientation.

Rapists come from all sexual orientations. Most Heterosexuals assume that rape is an abberation and not an expression of Heterosexuality.

Most Heteros no longer believe in the predatory Homosexual; out to seduce or coerce their victim. But it really hasn't been that long since Homosexuality was closeted and such lies were commonly held to be truths.

Only in the case of Pedophilia is it considered acceptable for people to use the slurs they once reserved for other races and orientations.

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Is liking little girls like an obsession. Does it consume your life. Do you look at most little girls and think, ooh I wish I could have her. I know when I see a good looking guy, I will look at him, but it doesn't mean that I want him.

I think that guys in general have a stronger link between appreciation and sexual desire. Libidos and mileage may vary. But there is a big distinction between fantasizing; be it about sexual relations or romantic relations, and actually taking steps towards expressing that.

There can be a lot of reasons to do no more than look. My marriage was one while it lasted. A lack of interest on her part is another. ( I have a tendency to fall for Lesbians.)

A pretty girl is usually merely passing through my life briefly. But I also live for art, wonderment at the marvels of science and revelations about history. Girls and Women are a part of my life but they aren't my life.

However, I haven't given up on finding someone special again.

People tell me that it is an addiction.

I think that the addiction metaphor is overused in general.

Sex addiction? Food addiction? We know these aren't chemical addictions. But methinks that Psychological addiction is an easy peg to hang something more complicated and subtler on.

I only think that addiction comes into it when someone is sublimating. If its not about eating but about control, if its not about sex but self-esteem; then that creates a cycle where the original issue can never be resolved through the activity. Therein lies compulsion.

That's not a feature of my feelings about Women or Girls.

How hard is it to have control where you would never touch a little girl.

Sorry, I have no experience with that one.

However I have no problem distinguishing between fantasy and reality. In reality, the consequences of such actions could be devastating to the girl and to myself; even if she was so inclined.

Its no problem at all to keep my actions oriented towards my goals. I feel no more temptation to act out than I do when I see a pretty newlywed.

Dante