i think i see what yr trying to say, & i think this is quite a well considered post. while i don't kno what was edited, i can't see anything that shld not be said.

if i understand you correctly, you are asking how a lg friendship can contain its inevitable element of eroticism without allowing that eroticism to spill over & poison the friendship.

i don't kno what to say in reply, except to say it is something worth keeping in mind on a daily basis, much as a samurai contemplates death. not w/ an attitude of fear, but w/ a peaceful heart. there is no room for guilty secrets.

the final truth lies in the heart of the lg, which must be likewise undisturbed. this is the gravest duty of a pedophile in such a friendship.