So you're saying you did mean it the way I assumed? You are victim blaming. It isn't abuse.

If we lived in a culture that demonized soccer and any playing of soccer caused the child to grow up to be ashamed. It still wouldn't mean that any adult who played soccer with the child abused them. It would mean the culture is toxic and needs to change.

I realize that society will treat it the same. Does that matter when judging the paedosexual? No. It is not abuse, if the initial action does not cause harm then it isn't right to say "it might as well be abuse" because they have not caused harm.

Just because I agree a paedosexual should not be sexual with a child does not mean I blame the paedosexual or say it might as well be abuse.