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Re: Rescue fantasies

Posted by Dante on Sunday, December 14 2014 at 03:27:03AM
In reply to Rescue fantasies posted by Missouri on Saturday, December 13 2014 at 10:22:53PM

Rescue fantasies are very common. And as fantasies they are harmless.

Playing them out in RL is much more complicated.

First off, its clear that most of the antis have rescue fantasies and need to see more danger than is present in order to be a saviour. At the very least this can lead to a skewed sense of harm and vulnerability, at worst..... well the Brooke Sheilds movie Endless Love isn't purely fictional insofar as folks have been arsonists in order to have something to prove their "heroism."

Further, the rescuer may be frustrated if they are redundant. While it is true that there are a lot of girls who ARE vulnerable and cannot defend themselves, there are also many who are already standing up for themselves and should be supported. Those actually seeking a girls' best interest should be willing to support her in ways that don't cater to fantasies about being a hero or her gratitude.

I'm also worried that this can easily dovetail into the innocence fetish.

Sure, there are a lot of Moe fantasies about finding girls attractive because they are more vulnerable and need assistance. But personal kinks aside, the value in a girl should not be her vulnerability. Otherwise we may be playing into some Pedo variant on the "amputee fetish" among adult pronz consumers. Valuing her neediness, like valuing her inexperience, can lead to treating the girl who rebuffs offers of assistance much the same way that innocence fetishists treat the girl with some experience. ( Or worse yet, to actively violating her wishes to be left alone because the rescuer "secretly" knows that she welcomes the effort. )

I also seriously DO NOT recommend indulging this fantasy to teleio-heteros. They say of the addict that they have to want to change. Well I have found that the same is true for many an adult female who appears in need of rescue. You may fantasize that because you're not the *sshole, that you can be the one to break the pattern of all the bad relationships she has in her life.

Well, unfortunately, if THAT is what she has built her life to have in it, then that is what she needs in it. If you join her in her unbroken string of failed relationships, be prepared to become a part of that string.

As with girls, its not as if there aren't those who should be supported in what they are doing to better themselves. But the key is that they are taking some step away from the problem and towards what they want. Feel free to join those who are on the path. But beware of climbing into a pit. The adult you seek to "rescue" may have invested a lot of effort into digging that pit.

And back to LGs. RL support has a lot of opportunities to do good and almost none to play the hero. And as with charity, it should be done because it is the right thing to do; without any expectation of gratitude or that you will be perceived as a saviour.

Dante

Dante





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