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Posted by Hajduk on Sunday, November 23 2014 at 08:04:01AM
In reply to Re: The main reason parents hate pedophiles/hebephiles posted by Markaba on Saturday, November 22 2014 at 11:54:20PM


A Markaba post that makes sense!

Why is there so much sense today?!






I have a few minor points still, but the general narrative holds.

There are a thousand reasons for parents to hate pedophiles, of which the need to control children is only one, and usually not a conscious one.

I am certain with the Cousin it is mostly about control, and mostly aware and conscious.

And the 'they want to control their kids' lives' line is really the mantra of the pro-contacters because it allows them to think of parents as the enemy,

I admit that years ago I thought of parents as the enemy. I may have thus contributed to this sorry state.

I also see clearly that many pro-contacters do see parents as the enemy. No question there.

I changed my opinion since. I no longer see parents as the enemy. Quite the opposite.

Today I think parents are our allies, except for truly abusive ones. Today I think the ideal dynamic for a child is a combination of good pedophiles with good parents, good siblings, and good extended family. I still think pedophiles alone can be able to substitute some of it if need be (for instance in abusive situations) but it is still not what I would call ideal. I think that a good pedophile is an excellent complement to good parents, and conversely good parents are an excellent complement to a good pedophile. And I think further that a good pedophile can be a good addition to a household with mediocre to moderately bad parents improving the well-being of child without having to undermine parenthood (again, short of abuse) and indeed, probably strengthening it.

Indeed, today I see the law as the one oppressing parents against welcoming pedos in their children's lives. A couple days ago even Ethan said as much.

Most parents don't want to control their kids for its own sake; they just want a) their family to run smoothly and b) their kids to be safe and secure, and they generally allow kids freedom to the extent that that's possible.

That phrase after the last comma was probably true when you grew up. But today the tendency is to take away as much freedom from kids as is possible. Even if it is not for control's own sake and instead argued as a safety or development issue.

Of course this has effects on pedos (and on parent-pedo relations) and sex, but is mostly a point about parenting, not about pedos or sex.









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