"And since your "rules" aren't about civility, but about what cannot be uttered, then asking opposing voices to silence themselves or be vanished does not constitute "agreeing to disagree" as anyone else understands it; or even as you understand it when you ask it of GCers so that both sides can coexist without one having to vanish."

Agreed. If Ethan were to claim that they keep all disagreements off their board because they don't want to turn away fragile self-hating peds who aren't ready to stop hating themselves, I would understand - though they could at least include a link (with a warning) for those brave enough to consider pro-contact facts.

But even in those circumstances this would clearly be a double standard - just a double standard that has merit within limited circumstances. We will uphold our standard, but that does not mean we will refrain from criticizing low standards elsewhere.