... why they aren't.

I was reading an article and it was about a five year old using the word sexy. Comments were generally very angry. Saying it was horrible kids know these terms. Other people saying thank god they don't actually understand the words they are saying. So I thought... why? Most of the time things people say kids shouldn't know, they should all the while exposing kids to extreme violence whether through corporal punishment or violent competition or violent media. Let me go over some terms and situations that it is okay for kids to know and understand to no detriment to the child.

Sexy

No one can really explain why it is bad for a kid to understand this term. When you break it down it makes no sense. Sexy describes someone who is attractive in certain ways. It is very subjective, as we all know (we find flat chests and little bubble butts sexy). It is easy to explain to a child.

How I would explain to a child sexy is when you find someone nice to look at. Sometimes this means you like their penis/vagina, butt, or chest. It can also include how they wear their clothes, any accessories they are wearing, and even their personality and how they carry themselves. Some people find me sexy, some find you sexy, some find the same gender sexy, some find the opposite gender sexy. Some even find animals sexy! Everyone is different and unique.

Genitals

Generally this isn't a big deal anymore, except for the fact that adults only talk about genitals to children as purely waste removers, not pleasure receivers. Which is wrong and it is not a detriment to know how one can give/receive pleasure.

How would I explain to a child Your genitals are used for more than just peeing and pooping! It feels really good to rub or touch down there. Just make sure they stay clean! Sometimes you might want to do this with someone else and that is fine and fun too! But you must make sure that the other person is okay with this. Never do it without getting permission and if the person seems upset you stop right away! Also make sure their genitals are clean too! No one is allowed to touch you without your permission either. No matter what they say, if you say NO that means NO.

I guess that included masturbation and mutual masturbation as well.

Cursing

Often people view children cursing as bad and bad for them to do. It has no grounding in anything objective. This is proven by the fact that you can make any jumble of syllables a "curse". If I wanted to I could raise my kid to think "drack" is a curse.

How I would explain to a child Cursing is just using certain words to express certain feelings. Sometimes people say "fuck" to express anything from being angry to being excited. Curses are usually used as more powerful versions of other words. To show that you really mean it.

Stripping/Strippers

A lot of people don't want their kids to know about strippers, especially their daughters. This is heavily based in sexism and obviously anti-sexual attitudes.

How I would explain to a child a stripper is a person who decides that they want to show off their body to other people and make money for showing it off. Just like with any other type of work they are using their body to provide a service to others and get money for it. A construction worker uses his physical strength and skill, a chef uses his hands with food and utensils, a teacher uses their mind, and strippers use their bodies and dancing skills

Anyone else have anymore or want to expand? Or dare disagreeing? lol