Re: Right on, they don't find value in kids

I was just thinking today, as I have before, contemplating why or how children inherently just know they can approach me comfortably, safely, and with ease. I've decided it is not just my behavior, but something dispositional. That means it is something within me, or about me that is inherent enough that it is part of who I am as a person. KBA has expressed this similarly. And you could even think about this from an evolutionary stand-point. Though romance need not apply, we often know who is safe and who is not safe. A gay will often have an increased sense of who else is gay, and I'd argue parallels in attraction... People can often tell who is in their league, who does and doesn't like them.

So as CL's will have an extra sensitivity to children, it is not unreasonable to assume children would be sensitized to them.

Since many to most other adults do not see value in the children, they cannot fathom meaningful interaction with them. This is more true for men with kids than it is for women with kids, because by stereotype, and societal role, women are said to find this interaction meaningful in some way, at least if the offspring came out of their cooter. Anyways, that is why they are so quick to assume foul play. I can't attribute all of their misbehavior and misbelief to this alone, but it is one part of the picture of why their are enduring disconnects between what CL thinks and what others do on this issue.

Re: Right on, they don't find value in kids - long