There is more to our lives than loving girls

In a society like this, with the level of hostility that it currently has for GLers, some of us need to face the fact that we may not be able to have girls in our lives at all. We cannot let our love for girls grow into an obession that we absolutely need to have girls in our life in order to be complete, functioning human beings. I see too many people in this community who absolutely cannot live without girls, and act as if their GL is the most important aspect of their lives, the thing that defines them above all others, as if none of the other facets of their life take equal precedence. No one here denies the importance of this one particular facet, but we need to put effort into building these other facets of our lives into something we can be proud of, otherwise we are constantly going to be unhappy and unfulfilled.

To me, the height of selfishness would be to put having girls in my life before my activism, my writing, and all the other things that combine to define me as a human being. As a hebephile who is out in real life, I have no choice but to make peace with the fact that I am not going to have young adolescent girls in my life to love. I survive despite this fact because my GL is only one facet of my being, and not the one that defines me the most. My desire to create a better world for all humanity is very important to me, and I can no easier give that up in exchange for the hope of one teen girl loving me than I can to give up any other powerful force that drives me as a human being. The world needs people who do not believe that improving the world in any way, shape, or form is a mere pipe dream; social progress would never occur if everyone simply accepted things the way they are today and didn't believe in their fellow human enough to strive for both personal and collective improvement. Being a GLer has added much to my life, but these other things have too. The joy I receive when I complete a new story I am happy with, or when I compose a new essay that means something to a few of the people who read it, or when I plan new stories with my writing colleagues and my girlfriend (who is also a writer) add far too much to my life to just ignore their importance. I am indeed a GLer, and I always will be, but that is never going to be all that I am, and I refuse to crawl into a fetal position and let the world beat me into a state of unremitting depression simply because I can't have any 13 or 14 year old girls in my life to love.

I believe that as GLers, we need to take into account that we are capable of dealing with anything society throws at us, and we can function with the limits that society currently imposes on us. To me, GC is every bit as important to me as girls are, because the friendships I have formed here, and the support I received, and the understanding I have been given, mean everything in the world for me. I will never say something like, "This aspect of my life...or that aspect of my life...or this community...or my writing...or anything else...could all go hang if only I can have a girl in my life to love." I won't say something like that ever because despite being a GLer my life isn't entirely defined by whether or not I can have girls in my life.

I can't speak for everyone, and I know that I can't expect everyone to think as I do on this subject, but I cannot personally imagine living a life where I absolutely needed girls in it in order to find any measurable degree of happiness or fulfillment, or where I obsessed on girls to the point that no other facet of my life made any difference to me whatsoever in comparison. I do not define my entire life as a GLer, because there are many aspects to me besides that, many of which I can actually fulfill in this society. My life may never be as complete as it could be if I was allowed to have teen girls in my life (hence, my dedication to activism), but it's far from meaningless simply because I cannot see a teen girl smile every day, and because I have no choice but to keep my distance from them due to society's absurd rules. In the face of this, I make due with what I can have, and strive to change things so that future generations of GLers will not have to live without girls. We need to rise up to the challenges that we face, and we should never ignore our multi-faceted nature.