Re: Question: What Would You Do for Love?

There are different ways in which one can find fulfillment and love, even when we are deprived of being able to find these things with those we would desire to have them with the most.

Personally, I would never give up my political activism because of the possibility of having a teen girl to love me. My activism and efforts to do my meager little part to improve the world are just too important to me, and it has ramifications that go the crux of the problems we face in society. My political activism is an example of me doing my part to improve the world so that future generations of adults and girls (and boys) need not endure the same hardships in order to find love with each other as is the case today. In my personal opinion, it would be extremely selfish of me to abandon my fight for a better world and give up my focus on the big picture in favor of my simply attempting to feather my own personal little nest with one or more teen girls to love.

As a hebephile, I have resigned myself to finding love with girls who are in the age range of 18-early 20s, and I presently have a 19 year old girlfriend. I have found that I do not have to give up a single thing that is important to me, including my political activism, in order to have the love of this girl. If a certain aspect of your life is important to you, you shouldn't be expected to give it up by anyone who truly loved you.

Also speaking for myself, I would never feel the need to lie to society about my attractions in order to accomplish anything or to gain some advantage, because I feel that deceit of that sort is both undesirable and unnecessary. Hence, I would never claim that I was "cured" of my hebephilia in order to gain the opportunity to be around teen girls. I also do not regret being out of the closet in real life, because in my eyes, it's making an important statement both for myself and the community, and also providing me with opportunities to prove to society that it's very possible for an MAA to be a decent person, a good friend, and to love and care about his/her fellow human. IMO, there is no better way for us to currently prove our basic humanity and our common decency to society. So I don't think you should ever regret being out, no matter what sacrifices you have had to make because of it. I would never want to go back into the closet, abandon my activism, or claim I was no longer a hebephile just so I could gain opportunities to have teen girls in my life. Sacrifices often have to be made in life for what we perceive to be the greater good, and speaking for myself, I would rather make a sacrifice to benefit the greater good than simply for my personal good. I have made my peace with the fact that I can never have a 14 year old girl as a girlfriend, and I have found myself able to appreciate the fact that I can have a wonderful 19 year old girl as my significant other. It's not ideal, but it is love, and she accepts every part of me, including my hebephilia and my political activism.