Re: The answer will always be personal

I for one, and I know many others on GC, do not have permanent LGFs. The reasons why themselves vary from person to person. I only want to point out that your assumption is incorrect for many, and from it derive many alternatives you seem to not consider or to not like.

I was not assuming my situation was the same as everyone else's. This is why I framed it the way I did, as a 'what if' scenario.

I just don't want the risk of putting her in harm's way through entertaining a relationship with her.

But I'm not doing anything illegal, and that was part of the equation I presented. I'm just talking about being in a friendship situation with the girl. You know my position on contact, so I wouldn't do it even if it were legal. But my love for them is different. I need it; I am easily susceptible to depression and having a girl in my life, even one I see only once or twice a week, helps a great deal in relieving my anxiety and depression. It provides for me a raison d'etre, something that can never be replaced with any amount of activism or anything else. I am a girl lover. Loving girls is what I do, it's what defines me.