Re: Dear Abby: 11-year-old 'Lacey'

" If the guy wants to talk and text with an 11yo girl, let them do it in private!!"

Nobody is in any measure to 'let' somebody else do something; this man is not doing anything wrong, and has every right to text his friend wherever and whenever the hell he wants to.

"But if they have been so public as to have his wife write a letter, and as to have his acquaintances realise their friendship and "voice their concerns", they (meaning him and the girl's parents) are only asking for trouble!!!"

Um, you apparently missed the part where it was mentioned that the parents were perfectly fine with the relationship. If he has friends and acquaintances who are concerned about what he's doing, then he should remove those people from his life.

The only reason it could be perceived that he is 'asking for trouble' is because most people don't accept that type of relationship. Most people are extremely ignorant and unintelligent, so what most people think should be irrelevant to any individual who is reasonably intelligent.

"They are half a step from accusations, and accusations are a one-way ticket to hell. For the girl and for her parents too. Hey, even for the Concerned Mother and their two kids themselves!!"

Again, the only reason this is dangerous is because of the currently existing social mores/laws that are in place in this society; there is nothing inehrently wrong with what this man is doing.

"This is why I don't think we should be making friends with any child at all."

Why is it that you think this again? Is it because most people are against this type of relationship? Need I remind you again that most people are extremely unintelligent/ignorant?