Re: Dear Abby: 11-year-old 'Lacey'

Your point is well noted, Mr. Crab. I will do some re-thinking on this issue.

But perhaps I should clarify a bit in regards to me. I am out of the toybox as a hebephile in real life. It's a choice that I think is absolutely essential for a certain number of us to make, because we need to show people who are close to us, at least, that it's possible to be an MAA and also be a good person and a caring friend, and to love others in our lives as deeply and with as much loyalty as any teleiophile. However, as a result of this, I cannot form any platonic friendships with adolescent girls in real life because if I did that, I would eventually get accused of something. For the same reason, I am unable to get a job working with teens. But these are sacrifices that I have made of my own choosing, because I think there has to be at least a small number of us who look at the big picture rather than only be concerned about our personal ability to interact with youths in our respective AoA.