Re: Dear Abby: 11-year-old 'Lacey'

"I find it of concern that Lacey doesn't have playmates her own age."

"Lacey is charming, friendly and plays with my children." It seems she does.

"It appears she has a crush on your husband, and he finds it flattering and is encouraging her."

I seem to remember at that age that others adults thought it was cute, not a scandal.

"While the conversations in the driveway may be completely innocent, the idea that they are texting each other makes me uncomfortable."

I have agree here given the current environment and the skewed view the world has. In this sex saturated society, the most innocent transaction is seen as having sexual overtones.

"My advice is to have a frank talk with Lacey's mother and express your concerns, because while what's going on may be innocent, it is not appropriate. The older male figure in her life should be her father."

Why her mother? Why not her father or is Abby being sexist? Does she think her father will walk over and want to have more than a talk with "Worried"'s husband? Isn't that sexist? What if Lacey doesn't have a father? What then Abby? Who will be her father-figure then? Also, what if the situation was with a woman she talked to instead? Would there be talk there as well or would anyone not even notice?