Name confusions like that usually become joking nick-linkings (that everyone involved knows are false).

But, man, you have a sensitive trigger!

Let me tell you one thing: while we probably usually mean everything we say, we probably don't mean it as emphatically as you take it. I think that is part of what has led to your misunderstandings here.

As for Cat (Catherine); she was a person I appreciated and liked probably more than she me. She was truly born centuries before her time. The world's loss.