Thanks for the reply, and I know what you mean about the situation you talk of. It's almost as if the moment she blossomed, she became less self conscious. Your situation sounds the same. Girls will be girls will be girls...

My ONLY reason for asking for advice, is NOT because I want someone to break the rules (why would I! - the post would just get deleted - woopie-woo) but because I want... deep down... someone to say something that comes as a revelation, is something I never thought of, helps me see a new angle, and in turn helps me deal with the dilemma. In other words, I have racked my brains, and am still left struggling with this beautiful LG blowing my mind.

I have to admit, I just thought about it, and if I wasn't me, I may not even believe the things I said. Then again, when people always seem to rally round and stick up for me by saying actually it is realistic, I would then probably start to believe me.

I AM struggling with this evolving relationship with my LGF. I find it a huge struggle. This is coming out in my posts, and is - at times - misunderstood. I am an individual and do not conform to any specific way of talking. I am known for being eccentric in my work life. This may also not help with the way I come across.

The bottom line, however, is I do still need advice and would really appreciate and input into the psychology of what my LGF is doing, and how best I should respond to it... not just for her, but also for my own sanity and safety.

Azure