But why would I want to do that??

1) Few people are really content and happy with life. Indeed, it is not easy at all. For many people it is because of a lack of a partner - but there are many other reasons why people are unhappy and there is no reason to assume that what works for one will work for all. I for one aren't all too happy with my life - and yeah, a partner would be nice; but I do know what are the things I am really unhappy about and which would really make me happy - at least for now.

2) I did try to have adult partners, during my college years, which were practically totally girlless. The sex was ok - sometimes even better than self-abuse!! But emotionally it was a really void and exhausting thing. And I chose very well who I'd try to partner with. It's not about them - it's about me, about the fact I cannot feel for a woman what I can feel for a lg... I decided to stop trying to lie to myself, and to women. It's actually been better.

3) I agree with others that you being a GLer is something you simply cannot hide from a partner you intend to be with for a long time. Try to feel her possible reaction since before you say it; but if you can't, then leave. It is too big a secret. And then yes, I would certainly feel mistrust towards someone who wouldn't confide me such a secret early enough or at all.

4) Jealousy is always a difficult issue. Part of it will always depend on her own insecurities. Part of it on your particular cultural expectations (as to how much "sex by the side" you are expected to have or not to have, and how jealous she is supposed to act). Part of it on what you actually do and show when you are with her - unless she explicitly says she is interested to know, you just don't go commenting on a hawt girl you just see when you two are together, and even looking must be done even more discreetly than if you were alone (and preferrably not at all, just I don't think that's realistic, lol).

It's also been mentioned that for a GLer to like one woman then she must truly be special. That is true, but most women won't see it that way; and will instead see themselves as "I can't give him what he most wants." That is an issue you have to work with your partner, and it will never be easy. I cannot give you specific advice because I haven't been exactly there. But it's a warning, at least.

5) Finding an adult female GLer or BLer is a great idea, imho, for several different reasons. A big one, for me at least, would be making it possible to adopt, which is extremely difficult for anyone but married couples to do where I am.

That said, while I am very sure that it would be far easier in many respects to be with her as a partner, friend and confident; and that she won't mind comments on hawt girls (lol)... I am still not sure I'd be able to like her sexually - I just don't fall for adults... or she me - obviously... but yes, it's a great idea on several levels...