I'm having some trouble with this question and I was hoping somebody here could help me out. We all know why we're here: because we are adults that find children attractive. We hope to see a society where we are allowed to express those feelings without fear of persecution, as long as we are caring and responsible towards the children we are attracted to. But can children reciprocate those feelings of attraction?

Now, this is a tough one for me to think about, because I am exclusively pedosexual. I don't find adults of either gender attractive, and I never have, at least not that I can remember. If you show me a line-up of women (or men), I could point out the ones that have features that are generally considered attractive by most people. In other words, I can discriminate between "good looks" and "ugliness" in adults. However, I don't feel even an ounce of attraction toward even the most "good looking" adults. And ironically, I suppose that's exactly how non-pedo adults feel about children!

Now, I can't really understand what adults see in each other that makes them attractive to one another. What men see as desirable in women, I see as unattractive and even disgusting, and what women see as desirable in men, I also see as unattractive or disgusting. So I can't relate to finding adults physically attractive in any way.

So back to my question: can children find adults physically attractive? Because I understand that my pedosexuality has to do with unresolved childhood issues that prevented me from "maturing" in certain ways. That's why I'm still only attracted to children (the age I was when I got "stuck") and not adults. So if you have to be "mature" yourself in order to be physically attracted to adults, how can any actual children can be physically attracted to adults?

How can children find the adult body as anything other than unappealing at best, or disgusting at worst? With its hair, its odor, it's various swelling protuberances, its secretions, etc. As a child, I found the adult body disgusting, and because of my unresolved issues, I haven't gotten over that. As hard as it is for me to imagine that any adult could be genuinely physically attracted to another adult, it's even harder for me to imagine that a child could be physically attracted to an adult.

Now, we all know that young boys idolize women actresses, singers, sports stars, and so on. But could that just be a cultural thing? In other words, are 11- and 12-year-old boys REALLY attracted to Lindsay Lohan and Hillary Duff, or do they just say, "She's HOT" because they know their friends expect them to and it makes them sound like they know what they're talking about? And the same with young girls idolizing male actors, singers, and so on. When little girls get "crushes" on their male teachers, for example, is there a component of physical attraction? Or is it just an emotional thing?

I can totally believe that children can be attracted to adults intellectually and emotionally. Smart, artistic, gifted children especially, might find that their peers are unfulfilling, and be more interested in adult companionship. I totally get that, because I experienced it myself. But I still don't know if I can believe that a child can find an adult's body physically appealing.

I'd like to believe that a healthy relationship (in an ideal, tolerant society) would involve components of intellectual, spiritual, emotional, and physical connection. Physical closeness and affection is important in any close relationship. But in order to want to be physically close with somebody, don't you have to be physically attracted to them in some way? Or have I got it wrong? Why would a child ever want to lie next to or cuddle with an adult body, aside from the expected interaction between parent and child?

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, I'm just saying that although we as pedosexual adults might desire that kind of contact with a child, why would a child desire that kind of contact with us?

Does anybody have any thoughts on this?

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