It takes courage to come outto someone who have no prior reason to trust, and if he wants to do that, I can admire his courage even if I don't have it myself. Not everyone has that much courage, and being one of them, I don't think they can be blamed. And at times it might be prudent and wise to deceive someone you know would be extrmely hostile to you if they knew you were a pedophile, and I don't think a person can be blamed for taking that course when it's absolutely necessary.

But what you suggest that he say is absolutely unnecessary, and is itself hostile to our cause, by saying that calling someone a pedophile is "horrendous" and that simply being a pedophile would somehow be a betrayal of their trust. Anyone who protects himself by stabbing his friends in the back is a lower form of scum than even the hateful bastards he's defending himself against.